Sleepovers

Whilst you are in care Children’s Services – including your social worker – and your carer must act as a responsible parent would. This includes making decisions that your parents would make if you were living at home with them.  Your carer will make most daily decisions about your care. This could be shared with your social worker and possibly your parents.

Some young people like to have sleepovers at their friend’s house and when you are in care this should not be any different. If you want a sleepover at a friend’s house ask your social worker or carer about this. Just like good parents would do they – your social worker and foster carer – will want to make sure you will be ok and well looked after by a ‘responsible adult’ whilst you are there as they need to know you will be ok. In order to do this your social worker and carer will need to be responsible parent and follow certain “rules” to make sure you are safe. This will be written into your Care Plan.

Look below to find out more about more about sleepovers:-

Resp A

In deciding if you can have a sleepover your social worker and carer would want to make sure that the adult who will be looking after you is responsible.  A “responsible adult” is someone who :-

  • Is aged 18 years or over
  • Has experience of caring for children (their own or other people’s)
  • Acts responsibly
  • Is safe

A “responsible adult” would not allow you to be exposed to drugs, alcohol, sex, abuse, crime or any other activity that may harm you.

 

The Rules

When you have a sleepover at a friend’s house there are some things any responsible parent will want to know in order to make sure you will be safe and cared for, the following “rules” will apply:-

  • Your carer has:-
    • Met your friend
    • Made arrangement with the parents of your friend
    • The name of parents, address and telephone number of where you are staying
    • Details of what you will doing
    • Arrangements about sleepovers are written into your Care Plan
  • Your social worker is informed every time you have a sleepover.
  • You will be in the care of a responsible adult.
  • If you are under 16 you cannot stay on your own with another young person without someone aged over 18 years.
  • Your sleepover is for one night only.

REMEMBER – If sleepovers with the same friend become a regular i.e. every month then your social worker will need to make sure you will be safe. This is because research tells us that young people are more likely to be harmed by people that they know. Your social worker will then need to visit the family and complete checks. This will be done sensitively and with your agreement.

 

Agree

Whilst you are in care Children’s Services – including your social worker – and your carer must act as a responsible (or reasonable) parent would. This includes making decisions that your parents would make if you were living at home with them.  Your carer will make most day to day decisions about your care although this could be shared with your social worker and possibly your parents. Your parents may agree that this is something your social worker and carer can agree to.

In agreeing to a sleepover your carer and social worker will consider:-

  • The type of relationship you have with your friend (i.e. are they your boyfriend and girlfriend)
  • Your friends are of a similar age to you
  • What the sleepover is for
  • There will be a responsible adult caring for you
  • Your views
  • Your parents’ views

Remember

  • Responsible parents sometimes say NO
  • Friends may be able to have a sleepover with you in your placement
  • Any agreement for a sleepover is based on trust